As a stubbornly self-sufficient, independent person, I can confirm that doing the baby/toddler thing largely by yourself is not the way to go. The sleep deprivation, isolation, and emotional adjustment to being a round-the-clock feeder, healer, emotional soother, playmate, and housecleaner is intense and overwhelming. Seize, accept, ask, search, and pay for any help you are fortunate enough to acquire. Do away with the false notion that you “should” be able to do it all. Raising humans is hard and it’s not meant to be done in a vacuum.